“Your task is not to seek for love, but merely to seek and find all the barriers within yourself that you have built against it.” _Rumi
“We are not our bodies, our possessions or our careers. Who we are is divine love and that is infinite.” _Dr. Wayne Dyer
Oh, poor you if you haven’t found divine love as you haven’t yet lived the universal truth. Oh, poor you if you have found divine love you are doomed to nothing else other than surrendering to it and renouncing everything there is, as for divine love will be all you can see.
Why do I say this? It’s a metaphor of course, the term “poor you” used above is subjective, we are not poor creatures , we are divine powerful beings living on earth and victimization takes you nowhere. But if you are on the path of divine love and if on this path you are experiencing the Twin Flame relationship, well, you are brave!
Brave, because you decided to know Love , and as you know Love is God. So you choose to meet God walking the path by connecting divinely with your Twin Soul counterpart.
The fact is, there is not much true wisdom or real knowledge about twin flames. There is only a grasp of it. The twin flame road is new and overwhelming, there is no guarantee, no safety, only surrender, forgiveness , understanding; even when there is no logic or reason. There is only infinite giving and hoping you are keeping your sanity throughout it.
I can only speak from my own experiences and for what has been shown to me this year. Coming from multiple lives memories , coming from connecting to my soul and divine essence in the physical presence of my twin. I’m starting to understand a little better what the twin flame means to me, which does not mean will be the same for you. We are all the same but our learnings, our paths are not; so you might have chosen to experience this in a different way . Nonetheless, let me share my personal learning and you can see if it resonates with the divine truth of your heart and soul.
Me and my twin are separated at this moment after a crazy year and so much spiritual madness and extremely fast growth we are no longer talking. I used to live in London and he lives in San Francisco. We met in Hawaii in April this year, if you want to know more of the background you can read about it in these twin flame articles here:
Anyway, since I met my twin my whole live changed. It was fast intense and oh dear, did I put a fight?! I did not want to give up everything, change everything overnight to follow my heart blindly with no guarantee of a secure union. I was told by all my spirit guides , by my higher self, by his Higher Self .. I was told numerous times that he is the one and that I had to leave it all to find him. But still parts of me insisted in fighting in not wanting to accept it, because him, my ego, always had the idea of love to be different from what love actually is.
It took me a while to embark 100% and follow all my inner guidance. It took me months of understanding that blaming him for any troubles or difficulty was very selfish and that I was not taking responsibility for my choices . Because the truth is, all I experienced was a reflection of my inner state. And even so I did it, I left London and went all the way to the Pacific Coast just to be near him, even when he made clear he wasn’t ready or sure about me.
Haha, I thought I was ready! But clearly I still have plenty of work to do. Because every time he rejected me it was my soul telling me I’m still rejecting myself. He reflects me I reflect him. It’s the twin dynamic.
See, I had all this played out in my mind: I’ll go there, I’ll give up everything, I’ll do my part and if he doesn’t want me this is it; I will not wait for him. I’ll move on with my life, my journey and open my heart to someone worthy of my love. Haha, I have to laugh because that was so naive of me. To believe I already had the answers in case things did not go my way or as planned (and even worse to believe certain people are more worthy of love than others, there is no such thing we all are the same).
Besides, I have been so tired going through this whole twin flame madness. If you are on this path you know what I’m saying. It’s exhausting at times. I even asked myself why can’t I just have a normal loving relationship, why did I choose this crazy multi dimensional , multiple life time eternity non-sense ? Why ? Why ? But hey, we are on 5th dimensional templates now so playing the victim will just make you feel worst, so stand up straight, honour your soul choice and live it gracefully. Get ready and start doing the work you signed up for. Start learning how to love yourself , how to be in harmony with the whole universe, how to see God in everything you look at, how to be God every single day of your life.
To be God you must be Love , and to be love you must surrender to it. If you heard about ego death and self love this can be very confusing because love will take all you have . It will teach you to let go and to desire it with the purity of your soul. It will bring you back to unity with God and teach you what you are.
I won’t get in details of my personal drama with my twin flame , I’m writing a book on the subject and I don’t want to bother you now with the drama. Because there is plenty of drama in the twin journey. I am, however, going to share what the ultimate learning I was taught trough my twin flame interaction.
So, imagine this scenario, pretty much everyone I have spoken to have told me to let go, to move on, to forget about my twin, he needs to do work (well, we both need to do work) by himself. Even my higher self has told me now is time to be apart. However, the pain from being separated from him and now, not even talking to him, is ridiculously bad. Bare in mind, I already tried everything to get rid of him .. and nothing has worked, he is with me ! Yes, daily. His energy is with me all the time, from the moment I wake up till the moment I go to bed I feel his energy. It was driving me crazy I wanted to be alone and push him away but there is nothing I can do. Fighting makes it harder; so I started to accept, to surrender to be kind to him and to his energy around me. Even though he, in the physical world, wants me as far away as possible from, his spiritual energy is with me.
The last few times we met in the physical world it was totally “coincidental” ( and also a total disaster) I thought he was away and even though when I was approaching the area my whole system started to shift. My heart chakra started vibrating like a crazy buzzing siren, I was sick to my stomach and I kept on telling myself to calm down that he was not in the same state, he was meant to be away. but after grounding and keeping my centre, 5 mins later he walks in the room and boom, there he is present in flash teaching me to trust in my senses. At this point I was already trying to avoid meeting him in the physical reality, trying to respect his wishes of being away from me. But the universe has it’s own agenda and at times we are absolutely unaware about those.
The fact is, this twin journey is not meant to be fully understood, faith is not understood, it just is, you believe because you know in your heart not because you need an explanation of it, you love because you do, you don’t need a motive, a personality, a reason, you just do . Love just is .. there is no need to understand or explain it. Besides, in the 3d reality, our mind is not very good at understanding multi-dimensional truths, so sometimes all you can do is to watch and not judge – not attaching any explanation to it.
So, things got even more chaotic between me an my twin. He always told me I made him sick, I didn’t quite understood that, until I felt sick myself, physically, about to throw up just before encountering him (without knowing he was about to enter the room). It was so hard to accept that all I can do is to go away from him and work on myself and be patient. I mean, Jesus Christ! I freaking follow all my guidance, at least I try my best to do so. Why does it have to be so damn hard? What is the lesson I’m missing here? Why do I keep manifesting this separation ?
And then, it happened!
I left San Francisco and I went to Costa Rica. I wanted to be as far from him too. Eventhough his energy was with me in a subtle way, the thought of him coming in and out, I dream with him every single night, I hear his voice calling me, but non of this made sense, until this day on the 17th of December.
I was having a skype healing session with a great Canadian healer, Stephanie Marian. She has been very supportive and of great help in my twin flame madness journey. We were talking about emotional triggers and and I was explaining I have been experiencing loads of anger surfacing since my kundalini rising . And she was helping me to tune in to my emotions and to this incredible fear that came up. Suddenly this voice inside me started saying things about him, I didn’t want to. I was thinking this is my healing session and he is away there is no point to once again talk about all this twin flame issue I’m separated from him now bla bla bla. It’s time to work on myself! But the voice insisted. It was my inner child, screaming his name over and over and asking for him saying how much she misses him.
I slowly started to connect to her and the energy started shifting. Stephanie supported me energetically and I went in deeper and deeper. Listening to her voice as if she took over and was telling me how afraid she was of losing him, even when she didn’t even have him. It is weird, I have this huge fear of losing him! But I’m not even with him! Not in the physical world… And what the heck does this mean ?
Well, then it was like the whole room lit up, I had to close my eyes and someone came and grabbed my hand ( yes, I was “alone” in this hotel room in Costa Rica) and he came out of nowhere and grabbed my hand. I could feel it as if he was there. My whole hand went numb I could feel energy pouring inside it. I heard his voice as clear as if he was talking to me in person, out loud. My heart started to burn and open even more. The fire spread through my whole body and within seconds I could barely feel my physical body.
I knew he was there. He said: I’m in you heart! Can you feel me? I cried because it was so beautiful, yet so painful, there was a lot of pain to come out, pain I didn’t even know exited, he continued! I am always with you. Do you understand? We can never be separated there is no separation, you know we are all one but now it’s time to feel it! And I felt it, all the process ! Of divine unity. I cried and cried more, because my inner child and I were one talking to him, telling my twin I didn’t want him to leave, I wanted him to stay always with me just like that, it was so real, more real than actually being with him physically. And he said “You need to know that I am always with you. There is truly no separation. There is no need for crying nor need to feel pain .. because I am here at all times. And so is everyone , we all live inside each other’s hearts, we are all connected at all times. I’m here to show you how this feels and to remind you of what your soul essence is. “
I begged him, for him to explain why he doesn’t want to be with me in the physical world now. Because it hurts me immensely not being able to be with him in physical, and he said he will come to me , he will find me and he promised me no mater what he will do it. That all I have to do is to trust, to wait and to continue my journey of letting the divine unfold. That now it was time to understand that there is truly no separation .
My heart continued burning, my whole body melted into nothingness and he, my twin, was there, so were my soul family , star family , guides , angels and archangels all in the room with me helping me to release the pain. I cried and cried like never before I forgot about the skype session but slowly I started to grasp physical reality again.
Skye ( Stephanie’s nickname) was there. She felt the release and knew I went trough a big experience. But I’m now sharing it fully because it was so intense so real and that’s my duty. To tell you that the twin flame journey can be so magical and precious to reveal great truths of the divine, to allow you to experience the truth that there is only love and no separation . To allow you to become love.
But how do I move from here ? What happens next? Well that’s in the future. Now, I shall live one day at the time and fully embody these teachings.
I knew that love was all there is, even in the pain, even in darkness, even in ignorance. But I have never experienced it to this extent, this divine unity with my twin, even when he is not physically in my presence and the understanding that he is never ever away from me because I’m him, he is me, just like I am you and you are me.
“You are divine love expressing yourself in a human experience as a powerful creator of your own unique creation” – Tanja Christine Jaeger
Everything is love, everything is God. I am God, I’m everything and I’m nothing.
Thank you for reading,
Love and Light,
A lot of people know that one of the main signs of a Twin Flame connection is the memory of past lives together. Not only is that reflected directly in your current reality, but it is also common knowledge that until present times, Twin Flames were not permitted to stay together in the physical reality, as the light quotient of the planet and the collective wouldn’t be as high as it is now. Therefore, in past lives, things would not have ended in a very pleasant way. I guess you all know about Romeo and Juliet.. well, it’s kind of like that full of tragedy. I’ll to try to take the edge of this topic, as it is intense.
How do these past life connections affect your present life connection with your Twin Flame?
Firstly, it is important to know that only at present times, the energy allows twins to connect harmoniously in physical reality. That is because of the global changes and the process of ascension.
Secondly, Twins of all kinds have been in intensive training to bring something greater to the ascension process. It could be on an purely energetic level, working level, friendship level or as a romantic connection. The fact is that this divine union is now allowed for those twins who want to do the work.
I met my Twin Flame in Hawaii, April 2015, guided to go on a journey of the heart. I knew something important was going to happen and I wasn’t sure of what, but things started to reveal slowly and I soon realised he was my Twin Flame.
It was a bit of a shock when I had my first past life memory of me and my Twin, in fact it made things messier, because my twin is very resistant towards these ” supernatural ” explanations, so I had to keep this to myself. Nonetheless, I have been guided to write about this, as it can be of value for many Twins who, like me, want to work and heal their past relationships on all levels, and most importantly the relationship with themselves!
Yes, all this karmic drama adds to the pot and to the intensity of the energy. Even if you haven’t remembered the past life connection, rest assure that a big part of the fear and discomfort you experience while in connection with your twin is directly related to all the past lives where you two were ripped apart from each other.
Understand that you both signed up for living those experiences. That’s part of the training; it’s part of how you each trigger each other. It’s part of your growing and learning.
I’m going to give a personal example on how you can do something proactive to start healing aspects of this relationship and to ease the energy and intensity of your current life connection with your twin flame. Have in mind that this is not for everyone, that’s a part of my journey and I have been guided to share it.
Basically, while in meditation, I was told by my Higher Self that I was to go back in time and heal all my relationships. There are various ways of how you can do this. Let your intuition guide you. You can do it by yourself, or with the help of a healer. I have been working on both levels, in fact, even while dreaming. My intention is so strong that the healing is happening on all levels, at a deeper cellular level too.
While in Glastonbury, 8th of August 2015, I received a healing where my Higher Self guided me to specific events back in time and showed me exactly what had to be healed. In this particular case I healed 3 different past lives I lived with my twin. But I’ll focus on the example of the one which I spoke about earlier in this article – the one which was my very first past life memory of me and my twin flame. I had this memory while talking to him on the phone , in the early stages of our connection back in May 2015 (I live in England and he lives in California ). My initial memories of our past lives together were connected to him and his current best friend in, and there was a lot of pain connected to it. I saw myself crying on the floor and I knew they were both there but wasn’t sure what had happened. I knew deep healing was needed.
During the healing, I was taken back in time to 1880 in America, and while remembering this life my first feelings were of joy and excitement when I realised I had just been promised in marriage to a man. My father had arranged the marriage and I was very pleased and happy as I believed it was a perfect match. I remember getting married to this handsome man and starting to have a very fulfilling life with him, full of love. Our marriage was very good for me and made me feel safe and loved. However, on a second instance I was taken further in time when the brother of the man I was married to returned from war. He was a soldier and I remember distinctly the feeling of seeing him for the first time. It was my twin flame; I had the exact same feeling as I had when I met my twin flame in this incarnation (in April 2015). Anyway, the feelings were very confusing as I had this intense pull towards my twin flame but being married to his brother I could only fight against those feelings. Once again, taken further in time my husband had started travelling for business and I was left in the company of my then brother-in-law.
I now remember clearly how we fell in love back in that time; we were at a city ball and he insisted on a dance. It sounds so simple it was all that it took – one dance – to have his arms around my body and to look into his eyes. I now remember everything about that moment. The lights in the room, the people fading around as we danced, and I remember the blue colours of his army uniform and the sparkle in his eyes. Most of all, I remember my heart fully opening and connecting to his. It was a magical moment. However, once again pushed further in time I was now in a mess between two brothers whom I loved. It didn’t take long between my husband’s travelling for him to realise what was going on, and in rage, in an act of madness, he killed my twin and after that killed himself. I was left crying in agonising pain, grasping over their dead bodies, with blood all around my hands from hugging and clinging to nothingness. Not much further in that lifetime I made my way to a river where I drowned myself and took my own life in deep despair.
So yes, very tragic, it was just as bad as Titanic, or another one of those crazy twin soul disasters.
Luckily, with the help of the Shaman, I was able to float around between lives and send to all this drama light and love and start the healing process, explaining to all souls involved why that had happened and why we agreed to live that dynamic.
The best part is the healing; when that’s done you re-write your past and live it in a different way. In this case, I ended up meeting my twin and marrying him, while his brother was also happily married to his counterpart. We experienced a healthy relationship full of light and love. With no drama. Once that was done I took this healed memory and placed it on top of the lifelines of each one of us involved in this memory. Very important here , replacing this did not erase all the learning and experiences of the actual life time, it only replaced the feelings and emotions healing all at a soul level, easing the intense pain and karma of all involved in this play.
Now I’m not telling you that you should go and do this, I’m simply sharing what I experienced and how healing it has been for me. The truth is that we don’t even need to go back to the past – we can do the work right here, as we all have the tools. It does shows us the understanding of how things work on a greater level and that everything we live has a deeper meaning, and that the opportunities we have now is for healing and growth in all relationship levels.
Please understand that you have the power to change everything in your reality, to heal, to manifest, to create. We all have this opportunity now more than ever to break free from our own self imposed shackles.
Of course, It is challenging, we are strong souls who have incarnated so many times on this earth. It’s very interesting how everything is so connected and how we keep reconnecting with people/souls life after life.
Funny enough the brother whom I was married to in that past life is in this life time my twin’s best friend, whom I share a great amount of love and admiration for. I met him the same day as I meet my twin .. That’s another story and I’ll be happy to tell you all about it another time.
The greater learning here was to understand that now energy is allowing twins to reconnect to remember and to heal all of that karmic mess, so we can be free and let go. So we can choose how we decide to live our lives. We are allowed to remember our soul origin sparkle shared with our twin, as well as what divine love and connection is; acknowledging how it’s played out in physical relationships between people and different life times.
We have the power to choose what we want and how to heal everything. By opening up our hearts and embracing the magnificent unknown mystical wisdom. Remembering who we truly are.
May your twin flame and all relationship connections heal you. Be brave, true strength comes from within. You are here for a reason. It’s time to heal.
Thank you for reading,
Love and Light,
So, it has been a little while since my last article about twin flames: Twin Flame Connection- What Happens When You Meet Your Counterpart In The Physical Reality. It was such a crazy intense adventure that I’m still processing what the hell happened. In fact, I’m still processing and understanding what is happening right now. It is not easy to put into words this kind of experience, because it is not logical, it does not make sense, and many people don’t understand it. In fact it would be a big pretention of mine if I claimed I understood it fully, because I don’t.
However, I have been experiencing it, and I have had the fastest growth in my life so far through it. I’m not talking about pain; I’m talking about growth about inspiration and desire to know myself, to find out my truth. I guess that’s the most beautiful thing that happens when you meet your Twin Flame, your Twin Soul. This union allows you to go within to start getting in touch with your heart with the essence of who you truly are.
Speaking of the Running Process:
I wanted to talk about the running process and how it has manifested into my experience with the Twin Flame connection. So, apparently what happens is if both twins are not ready for the reunion, not fully aligned, one of them will run. This is a very paradoxical thing, because this rejection can only happen if there is rejection in the twin they are running from. It works like polarities. As long as one is fully balanced and harmonised, the other one should not have the crazy need to run. But it is not that practical. There isn’t much of a rule; every case is different.
What I have noticed in both sides of my Twin Flame connection is the discomfort, even though from the first time I heard him saying he loved me, and when we both started having feelings for each other, everything was magical and perfect. However, the closer it got for us to reconnect in the physical reality, the bigger the discomfort grew.
It grew because I was forced to look within myself and review, acknowledge and accept every single aspect of myself – and yes maybe I was ready for it (of course I was, or else this opportunity would not have happened). I did feel that I was not ready, that I was not doing it willingly, and it was the freaking hardest thing I have ever done. At times, it felt like pure madness. I had this intense need to run as fast as I could, but I just could not make it. Instead, I kept getting pushed closer and closer to him. It is like a magnetic pull. I can’t run, but I don’t like to stay in it either. At least I had the awareness of the whole situation to be able to observe what was truly happening.
It’s very uncomfortable being near him. Although I love him completely and accept him the way he is, even when I can see the beauty of his soul and the transparency of his humanity, independently of how he acts, I still can’t help but to feel this discomfort near him. He triggers me and I trigger him; it is impossible not to. Even when he is nice and loving, I still feel anger, sadness and other lower vibrational feelings towards him.
What is this teaching me? Who am I really running from? What am I rejecting here?
The answer is very simple; I’m running from the truth, I am running from myself!
I don’t want to look within, I don’t want to understand why I have been acting this way. Or why the triggers kept setting up this atomic reaction of discomfort inside.
See, on a rational level it is very silly; I know he is a nice person, talented etc. Okay, he has faults like everyone does. The fact is he is not good nor bad. On a practical and very rational level, there should be no reason why I feel so challenged by his presence. Yet that’s not how it turns out to be.
The Twin Flame connection brings up all sorts of karmic issues for healing. It will lead you to go into a journey of Self Love and Self-understanding. In my case, it is really allowing me to find my true powers within myself. I’m learning about who I am and how to be free from any discomfort from any situation.
It’s a very big gift in disguise; I’m learning how to be totally comfortable in my own skin without the need to run from anything or anyone. I’m facing my life choices up to this point and empowering myself – acknowledging my reality has been a product of my choosing, and my learning process. I’m choosing how this reality will manifest in a way that’s aligned with my inner truth and with my soul.
Once I truly understand this, once I let go of this identity I have been invested in, once I learn about myself and fully love and accept myself, there will be no wanting to run, no discomfort, and no one will have this power over myself.
And the truth is simple: no matter how much I love him or want to be connected with him, it doesn’t matter. This connection is divine and it cannot be broken. What matters is that I need to love and master myself, accept myself, and set myself free from the only thing capable of truly imprisoning me: Myself.
So my advice for those in this process is to truly let go, and to trust that whatever the outcome is, it will be perfect. Things are changing daily, there is so much happening on earth and if you are meant to be reunited with your twin flame in the physical reality fully and harmoniously, if you are meant to work together in your divine connection, it will happen. But it will only happen when you let go and truly love yourself unconditionally.
Trust in the divine. It’s all happening perfectly, in the exact way it is meant to, surrender to Love. And remember: you have the power to choose and to manifest what your heart desires.
Thank you for reading,
Love and Light,
“You disappoint me, Gwendolyn. I hoped you might have a watt or two more light in your bulb than those poor toads that look on romance as an investment like waterfront property or municipal bonds. Would you complain because a beautiful sunset doesn’t have a future or a shooting star a payoff? And why should romance ‘lead anywhere’? Passion isn’t a path through the woods. Passion is the woods. It’s the deepest, wildest part of the forest. Everybody but the most dried up and dysfunctional is drawn to the grove and enchanted by its mysteries, but then they can’t wait to bring in the chain saws and bulldozers and replace it with a family-style restaurant or a new S and L. That’s the payoff, I guess. Safety. Security. Certainty. Yes, indeed. Well, remember this, pussy latte: we are not involved in a ‘relationship,’ you and I, we are involved in a collision. Collisions don’t much lend themselves to secure futures, but the act of colliding is hard to beat for interest. Correct me if I’m wrong.” –Tom Robbins, Half Asleep in Frogs Pajamas
A lot of people seem to be confused over what the concept “hopeless romantic” really means. It’s one of those things; like how most people disproportionately imagine they’re a “good driver,” or “smarter than most people.” It’s a particularly fascinating cognitive bias known as “illusory superiority,” whereby individuals overestimate their own qualities and abilities, relative to others. The same thing applies to the concept of being a hopeless romantic.
In order to understand what a hopeless romantic is, we first need to understand what it is not. Let’s break it down using a trifecta: between the hopeful romantic, the hope-fool romantic, and the hopeless romantic. Just remember to look through the scope of high humor, and let rest your scope of self-seriousness. And remember what Rumi said, “Love is the whole thing. We are only pieces.”
The Hope-fool Romantic:
“A man asks, “God, why did you make woman so beautiful?” God responded, “So you would love her.” The man asks, “But God, why did you make her so dumb?” God replied, “So she would love you.”” –Unknown
A great many people are hope-fool romantics because they imagine they are hopeless romantics when really they are hopeful romantics. Allow me to explain.
A hope-fool romantic is typically naïve, impressionable, and thoroughly conditioned by their particular culture’s sense of what romance means. They are taught to be invulnerable and meekly me-centered (codependent). They are unable to even fathom being vulnerable and we-centered (interdependent). Besieged by the onslaught of romance movies and Disney movies, and beleaguered by the gauntlet of love songs and sexy videos they grew up watching, these young romancers imagine they’re cool, hopeless romantics. When really they’re just conditioned to view love in extremely marginalizing, materialistic, and possessive ways.
If, as the French poet Paul Valery satirically opined, “Love is being stupid together” then hope-fool romantics have taken that advice and ran with it. In their innocence they have fallen victim to the notion that love is something that they must win, or that they must seek and eventually possess, tame, or contain. But, as Osho articulated, “Love is not about possession. Love is about appreciation.” Love is not a destination. Love is a journey. Appreciation can only come when we allow ourselves to become vulnerable enough to feel it. And that means delving into some pretty scary waters. As Rumi said, “Love is the bridge between you and everything.” But he can only show us the bridge. We’re the ones who have to walk over it.
The first scary step is learning to love yourself. Not your image. Not your reputation. Not what you imagine people think about you. But your deepest, wildest, most vulnerable self. Your inner-most core, where primordial love resides. Seek that. Love that. Start there. Then work your way up to loving everything else. Love is the medium through which courage can flow, after all. Like Lao Tzu said, “Being deeply loved gives you strength; while loving deeply gives you courage.” Indeed. Love can solve almost any problem. An act of love, the defeat of the conditional by the unconditional, overcomes everything.
The Hopeful Romantic:
“Drop the idea that attachment and love is one thing. They are enemies. It is attachment that destroys all love. If you feed, if you nourish attachment, love will be destroyed; if you feed and nourish love, attachment will fall away by itself. They are not one; they are two separate entities, and antagonistic to each other.” –Osho
Hopeful romantics make up the greater majority of romantics. They have overcome the naiveté of being a hope-fool, but only to fall into another level of innocence altogether: willful hope. They utter such platitudes as “Mr. Right” and “the one” and “knight and shining armor” and “soul mate” and “happily ever after”. They want so terribly bad that their love be a magical experience of two people meeting and spending the rest of their lives together, that they obsess about it to no end, thereby killing the magic. And yet, ironically, they still imagine themselves to be hopeless romantics. But they are so busy trying to possess love that they forget to be possessed by love. Obsession tends to lead to possession, after all. And they are all too often disappointed, typically becoming inadvertent serial monogamists along the way. Granted, there are always exceptions to the rule. But even in those cases, as the Bard said, “The course of true love never did run smooth.”
If hope-fool romantics are inhibited by the past, then hopeful romantics are inhibited by the future. They are so intent upon finding the “other half of themselves” that they forget they are already a whole person. A whole person who has yet to figure out what they’re made of. Love, if genuinely felt, is more of a fracturing anyway. Love cracks us open. It breaks open our heart. It makes us vulnerable so that another person, who is also fractured and vulnerable, can help co-create a unique love dynamic. Love tests our mettle by shattering our metal and then softening it in order to see if it can be adapted to, and then pieced together with, the shattered and softened aspects of another.
But hopeful romantics don’t understand this. They are locked in. They are dead-set on finding their “other half.” They have the cart of their longing firmly in front of the horse of their love, and then they wonder why they cannot get anywhere. Our longing should only ever trail behind us, like a cape, lest it blind the road ahead of us, like a horse cart. A road that leads to a refreshing new perspective, and a shedding of the too-heavy burden of willful hope. Like Mark Booth cryptically articulated, “Deep inside us there is a self-loathing that prevents us from living wholly in the moment, from living life to the full. We cannot truly love or be loved until the insect-like carapace is cut open by the agonizing process of initiation. Until we reach this point we don’t know what life is meant to be like.”
The Hopeless Romantic:
“The only way of loving a person is to love them without hope.” –Walter Benjamin
Being a hopeless romantic is a quality, a way of being in the world with an equal parts mindful/no-mind disposition toward life. A way of appreciating what we have, balanced with the counterintuitive ability to let it go. Hopeless romantics understand that the only viable option for love is for it to be in a state of creative non-attachment, holding on sufficiently enough to not fall apart, but letting go enough to allow space for human flourishing. Love must not obsessively attach and it must not obsessively detach, but it must do both if it would live forever. Like Dawna Markova said, “I choose to risk my significance; to live so that which came to me as seed, goes to the next as blossom, and that which came to me as blossom, goes on as fruit.” And so it is with hopeless romantics. They are not bound up in the hope of love, rather they are unbounded by the freedom of love being what it is meant to be. Indeed. As anywhere else in the universe, the hopeless romance trumps the hopeful one.
Being a hopeless romantic is embracing the Apocalyptic Love Story. It’s being all in, filled to bursting with the beautiful tragedies as well as the ugly joys of life. It’s riding the hurricane of love like the beautiful wild beast that she is. It’s embracing vicissitude. It’s falling in love with love itself. The highest to which mankind can attain is love. And so a hopeless romantic contents themselves to be in love with love. They are love. They understand that true love is the absence of striving for love; it’s the presence of being Love. It’s a deep, all-consuming cosmic love that subsumes the slings and arrows of unexpected change. Like E.E. Cummings said, “Love is the voice under all silences. The hope which has no opposite in fear; the strength so strong mere force is feebleness: the truth more first than sun, more last than star.”Hopeless romantics are the ones dancing the wonderfully-terrible and tragically-beautiful dance between “first sun” and “last star.” Their love shrinks or expands in proportion to their ability to let it be free. And so let it be free they must, riding it without hope, without expectation, without dogmatic belief or a self-serious disposition. On bated breath they surf, rolling with the tragic pounding of the waves, but rising with the romantic sounding of the Phoenix’s courageous call.
The hopeless romantic is the Never Not Broken Goddess within us all, shattering in order to feel more, courageously breaking apart in order to become absolutely vulnerable, and then piecing herself back together again in order to become spiritually and existentially robust. Like David Whyte beautifully articulated, “I want to know if you are willing to live, day by day, with the consequence of love and the bitter unwanted passion of your sure defeat. I have read, in that fierce embrace, even the gods speak of God.
Thank you for reading,
Love and Light,
There are different levels of soul connections. Some call it soul mate and others twin flames; some of these connections are non romantic but yet are very important for our development.
However, there is one type of twin flame, the romantic one, which carries the highest frequency of all, and it’s unquestionably the most intense experience one can ever have with another human being.
As humans, we all have this deep in our DNA, encoded from the beginning of our race. When the Lemurian beings, whom were androgynous, decided to experience love and physical feelings they split their soul into two, becoming male and female. So, this blue printing is genetic as well as spiritual. We deeply long to connect with our counterpart.
Many search for this, and many times the connection only happens in the spiritual level; as both souls may not be incarnated in physicality. However, when it does happen in real life, you can be prepared for the craziest, scariest, hardest, most joyful, and wonderful experience of your life.
I’m only starting to understand this as I myself have come to find my romantic twin flame in the physical world.
The energy is nearly unbearable, it is too strong, and nothing can be rationalized. The sense of Self is questioned, and a feeling of constant ego death is constantly hunting you and pushing all your limits. It’s nearly like being asked to die and be reborn every day. Let go of everything you thought you were, and give it all away to whatever is coming next.
You will notice some cycles of emotions flowing daily, and at this point I can say you have to learn how to run around the cycle until you are aware enough to stand in the middle and not engage with the negative emotions just being able to release them.
So here are some practical things you might want to know about this energy:
The Cycle of Looking Into Your Own Soul
Wow, even while writing it, it sounds absolutely unbelievable. I never knew you could look into your own soul when connecting with someone else. It’s basically so intense that the energy takes over control of your whole being. So, you need to be aware of this power and treat yourself with kindness and love, and explain to all aspects of your Self that it’s fine and perfect, and allow yourself to live it.
The Cycle is practically like this – Love, Excitement, Anxiety, Panic, Sadness, Compassion.
Love : In the Love part of it, everything is the most enjoyable, perfect, pure way It feels like you never left the person and you are one; your energies are totally merged and balanced, and you complete each other equally in a non-dependable way, but on a infinite bounding that is the most familiar, save wonderful thing. We thrive on each other’s light, bathing in their energy, which is part of your blueprint. You have total trust and faith in the relationship, and nothing could separate you, not even death.
Excitement: After the love comes the excitement of having found this person and how wonderful things are, and how you want to kiss the whole world and spread love around it. You want to serve and be of use for the universe, you feel in sync and everything is heightened. The joy pours out of you and surrounds everything you connect with or see. And even just on a vibrational level you bring out the best in everyone, and everything around you changes into the rainbow frequency. This is the highest of the frequencies, and can be overwhelming as it carries so much light.
Anxiety: After joyfulness begins the work of clearing out old aspects of self. The fear comes in as you realise there are no certainties in the world, and you also realise how hard it is to surrender to the feeling. You start to lose the sense of individual identity and become anxious and overwhelmed with the love you feel for this person. None of it is logical but is emotionally based, independent of the actual reality. Some cellular memories get triggered, and deepest insecurities also rise. The questioning is endless and consumes your energy .You then start to move immediately into the next stage.
Panic: At this stage, you feel threatened and not sure of anything, and the feelings are so overwhelming that you can only think about pushing everything as far away from you as possible. You want to run and blame all the emotions on the external world; you can’t handle the light and the frequency, so you lower into this stage as a strategic move to balance. This is when Ego is fighting its best to keep a sense of individuality and to protect you from getting hurt or denying the truth of complete unity with the cosmos. Once that’s done comes the next.
Sadness: After being in panic and pushing the love of your life away with all your strength, the immediate sadness takes over as you are unsure that the panic stage will actually take away the intensity of the energy. The energy changes into sadness, bringing again the longing and need to re-connect with your other half, and that’s when ego tries again to fight, because the sadness asks for you to surrender and let go of any preconceptions or sense of right or wrong. In this stage, you are asked to look into your divinity and connect with it.
Compassion: I’m at this stage; you put yourself into second and really just focus on the understanding and being compassionate of your other half with no judgments. You are able to forget all the previous stages and surrender into unconditional love to protect and cherish the other above your own needs. With that said, it’s your deepest need, at a soul level. While embracing this process, you realise how this person is a total reflection of you, and how their polarities and imperfections are a reflection of your soul as well as their light being the same light that you carry within. It takes you into the understanding of your own divinity, surrendering to the light of universal love through pure compassion and forgiveness.
Then be prepared to ride it all again, put back on your rose-tinted glasses, tighten your seat belts and get right on it.
This cycle is both very unpleasant and the most wonderful thing at the same time. It is so intense, and you have to hold on tight because it feels like walking on the edge.
Eventually, you should start getting used to the high frequencies of this energy and start to get more stable. Doing inner work over and over again until you are ready to enjoy this union fully and then start serving its purpose.
There is a reason twin flames come together, the work related to it is beyond my understanding at this stage, but I’m sure it will reveal itself soon as we both work with this energy.
My advice is just be gentle with yourself, loving with yourself, and surrender to the magic, surrender to the light, and no questioning: just be it. No expectations of the outcome, no control, just love and understanding.
Thank you for reading,
Love and Light,
” It is only natural that after so much transformation we’ve been going through lately, more twin flames are ready to connect on a physical level. Now, I could give certain reference points related to this reunion, however it’s so unique and different for each individual, that it’s important to not have any expectations related to it, no belief systems, no outdated ideas around it.
Simply know that when it’s time, it will happen naturally and it will all unfold at the right time and at the perfect pace and you will know. If it’s confusing, let it go, because if it’s real, it will always find its way back to you. I do feel guided to point out though, the fact that the twin flame relationship doesn’t have to be a romantic one, but it is not excluded. In essence, it’s a sacred connection, older than time itself. You will know it, by the way you will feel it and you will feel it through all your being. You will remember it and live it. “
Excerpt about twin flames from Ascension Guidance Message: New Moon in Gemini – 16 June
Important Note: Make sure it doesn’t become a distraction; a distraction from yourself, from living, from the present. You have to realize and understand the truth that you are whole, you are complete in all you are Now.
Thank you for reading and watching,
Love and Light,
” For some, this may be the first you’ve heard of the name ‘twin flame’ or ‘twin soul.’ There are so many definitions and confusion around definitions of these words. Simply, many feel the twin soul is the other half of your soul, your divine counterpart. It is said that when you meet your twin flame it is to awaken you and assist in your growth, each shining ‘light’ on the other’s ‘darker’ places in need of healing. It’s not unusual for those on a path of awakening to encounter this concept.
Expanding into the more general, so much is said about the many things that help/support and ‘make us complete;’ whether it be uniting with our twin soul, yoga, spirituality, religion, a holistic diet, mantras, practices or things we don’t practice but just feel, if we did we’d be complete. In a word, no. If you’re reading this, you’re ready for the truth and it’s no – you are already complete. Some or all of these things may be helpful. If we’re paying attention, they usually show us not only what we need to heal in ourselves but also what the remedy is. The remedy can be found within. If we expand a little more, we’ll discover that our deepest truth and what we seek is already where we are…if we can just stop seeking.
We attach so much importance to all of these things, like keeping ourselves busy rather than sitting with our soul and listening. As long as we keep putting it out there into our lives that we ‘need’ anything, twin soul or other, we are generating the energy of need. That energy will attract more of the same but also keep us locked, blocked from expanding into what we truly are. What are we? Limitless, complete, interconnected everything and nothing at all. We are the union, we are the twins and the remedies and we are one and all.
This piece ( The Twin Flame is Within) written by Jennith Lynn Burgess is really excellent. She expresses the deepest understanding of the twin union and its purpose. Jennith sheds light on this subject as she does on many lives, counselling and assisting them with their growth. ” – Stephanie Marian on Avanti Group
” The True Twin Flame is Within
Divine Truth, when filtered through the ‘human’ experience, is fragmented and ever-evolving. Even for Angelics; in human form, our perception of truth is dependent upon our level of expansion in every moment, and the ‘version’ of truth that serves us in one moment will no longer serve in the next as we continue to expand. This is why it is so imperative to not allow oneself to get ‘stuck’ on any one particular ‘story’ or ‘version’ of truth, because ultimately, that ‘story’ was birthed into being by someone else, as a result of their personal experience, and is not representative of Divine Truth as a whole. The only thing served by a ‘stationary’ truth is EGO; the only one desiring of a ‘stationary’ truth is EGO. All paths are valid and lead to ONEness. Spirit calls us all to remember this. And if this challenges you, Spirit calls you to ask yourself – why?
As long as one seeks externally in another, seeking the Twin Flame externally in someone else, that will be their experience of Union. Releasing the label and the dogma brings about true surrender, True Union, which we are, already, but are unable to SEE truly until we are ready to do so. One can talk with others and think about it all they want, can THINK they understand ‘fully’, but the truth is, when a deeper level of awareness hits you, you FEEL it, and once again you find yourself faced with the moment when you realize everything you thought you knew is not quite what you thought you knew. Twin Flame is a FRAGMENT of the experience as a whole. Not the entire experience, or the ‘reward’ of it, but a point on the map intended to get you from point J to point K so to speak, not intended to keep you at point J indefinitely.
Understand that none of this is makes point J ‘wrong’ or ‘bad’ it is simply illuminating various ‘truths’ as fragments of a whole. When you step outside of your own experience and view it, together with the experiences of many others over time, from an outside observer perspective, it becomes clear how these fragments come together like a great Cosmic puzzle to create a greater picture. It’s the same with Religion – all are fragments of the ONE truth – and the “Twin Flame Religion’ is just another branch of the very same ‘truth’ tree. Meant to guide, not define, unless you choose to be defined by it.
The Twin Flame is within…it is YOU…your energy…no other holds it or *is* it, exclusively; rather it is reflected through others in order to show us what we need to see as we move along our journey and path to ONEness. These are things I knew, all along, but did not truly understand until recently when many things were shown to me from a ‘new’ perspective (new to the ‘human’ me). Understanding from Ego is not the same as understanding from Spirit. And ‘Spiritual Ego’ is still Ego. Again, this does not mean that ego understanding is ‘wrong’, it is just incomplete. Complete understanding or ‘more complete’ anyway, as I know what I have been shown is, still, a fragment of truth, with more yet to be revealed has freed me. No more pull, no more push, no more external anything. No more need to analyze, chat, mentally digest. I FEEL it all, and it is what it is. Free to love, and be loved in return. BE LOVE, BELOVED! The truth was there all along. “
Thank you for reading,
Love and Light,
Hawaiian Journeys Of The Heart
Some of us have heard of this term,Twin Flame. I’m still wrapping my head around it, because I really don’t know how this whole past life connection actually turns out to be in real life.
I’m a true romantic. I never hold back, and never withhold what my heart commands me to feel. This is definitely a new way of being. Although in the past I have been impulsive and have made bad choices based in all sort of mind assumptions, listening to my heart and only my heart is a way of being I’m yet to get used to.
It’s hard work not to let fear and the mind games you play endlessly against yourself get in the way of how you truly feel about someone. It’s hard enough figuring out how to live and let live when you have a strong connection with someone. Even harder is when you meet someone and realise you already played some loving role with them in the past.
It’s overwhelmingly confusing to allow just the now to tell you how you feel. It’s nearly impossible to control your heart aches and longing when you know and have seen the past and how much you once already loved someone.
Even more crazy is how the universe puts you ,once again, in front of this person. How the cosmos brings you in front of each other to find out what is hidden within, to learn more about the mystery of Self.
I guess this time I’m a little luckier, because at last I understand more about hell and heaven than I used to. Awareness is in place and I can acknowledge karmic connections and how soul recognition works. It’s all very “intellectualized”, and people in spiritual circles know about these timeless connections.
But how does it play out? When you know it didn’t work before, when you know in past lives it was full of uncertainty, pain and even death.
How can you just let things unfold when your whole system is craving every single cell of some other being because your whole particles remember them.
Even odder is when you barely even know this person in this current life!
See, my heart sent me on a quest to Hawaii. It commanded me to go away in search of something secret. I truly felt guided, and I went on this heart journey chosen by my soul. I knew I was going to experience something amazing. I swam with dolphins, I sang with the whales, I chilled out with turtles, I chased sharks, and I’m not speaking figuratively. I actually did those things. I followed the rainbows in the path, and I met the most amazing people. And deep down I hoped I was going to meet someone, someone who would change everything I know, that would make this trip truly enchanted. I thought hey, maybe I’ll meet my soul mate there.
As it turns out, Hawaii did have some romantic adventures and I got involved with someone truly amazing and there was love, but not the kind of love I thought I was going to find. Not the kind of love I thought my heart was after.
I made some new connections, some lovely people indeed, and when I returned to London I was very happy and I missed Hawaii and the most magical time I had ever had. The energy of the land and the secrets within it, I was truly home there and I’ll carry it with me forever.
I also thought mmm, my heart was wrong. I didn’t meet that person. I wasn’t sad, I just thought it was just not meant to happen there like I dreamed. But hearts are wise things. They know way more than they let you see.
It wasn’t even a month since Hawaii that something strange started to happen. It was slow and warm, the pieces of this puzzle started appearing right in front of my eyes. I kept in touch with someone, without really knowing why and understanding why I felt so drawn to this person.
I mean, how can you feel so much for someone you don’t even know? How can this be so very real, a feeling that triggers memory, that transcends time and space. Is this love? Is this how it’s suppose to be? Taking over all your being and playing with the vulnerability of your soul?
A small sparkle that can change over into the brightest star ever born, but at the same time so fragile and perfectly fit inside a heart.
I knew something was happening, but I sure wasn’t prepared to find out this was my twin flame. I sure had no idea of what to do with this information nor how to feel about it.
I don’t even know if twin flames end up together or not.
In what I could see from previous lives shown to me, through visions, is that some of those encounters ended rather badly.
Not only that, this person lives an ocean across me. My mind has worked well in listing one million reasons why I should not even consider the possibility of being together or giving this a chance. But my heart on the other hand can’t have enough of the feeling he brings, so very familiar and at the same intoxicating with joy and peace as well as raising all sorts of uncertainties and old behaviour patterns.
How do you deal with love that is written in the heavens? It’s terrifying to know how powerful this connection is, and how uncertain it can turn out to be.
Have I even learned what I was meant to do in the past lives I had with him? Why is he here again? So many questions of the mind trying to aimlessly figure out what can’t really be explained but only felt.
Well I guess I’ll find out soon. Whatever happens, I can only know in my heart that I know him well and I’m ready to find out what this life has hidden for us.
With fearless courage to love how love should be. I’m ready to find out the unknown, to touch the heavens’ secrets, and to get to know about him here, in the present of the now.
Thanks for reading,
Love and Light,
If you want to read more on Hawaiian tales here is another one : Embarking On A Journey Of The Heart