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The Difference Between Responding And Reacting

We don’t think much about these two concepts, but the knowledge and the understanding of them could be the secret ingredients to living life in grace’s embrace and they can provide us with that strong foundation of balance and harmony that cannot be easily shaken by neither outer or inner challenges, which we all experience at some point.

I noticed that many of us confuse these two “concepts.”  Perhaps “concepts” is not the best word to use, they are much more than that, they are ways of living. Once implemented, they can shift our reality greatly, but first let us describe these ways of living and the difference between, so they will be better comprehended.

As humans, we have been programmed to react to the outer world. It is that primal instinct, animalistic reaction to our environment, to situations, to people. This reaction to outer circumstances is mental, emotional and even physical. In physiology, it is called the ” fight-or-flight response,” but I humbly beg to change the name slightly and say it’s more like the “fight-or-flight reaction,” because indeed it is a physiological reaction, not a response. It triggers neural reactions, secretions of various hormones and a lot more processes are beginning to take place in our body. Reacting can lead to anxiety, depression, chronic stress, weakened immune system and increased risk of heart attack and stroke.

Our body feels like it is being attacked, so it created a very intelligent defense mechanism, that has evolved as necessary and needed throughout centuries of distorted social structures. Today, we are far more advanced than we were even five years ago. We may recognize some primitive behaviour in some, but generally we have evolved and are evolving past those distorted social structures. Defense mechanisms have to evolve too, the walls have to be torn down and as with everything else, this evolution begins through our inner transformation.

On a mental level, our mind reacts to outer circumstances either with dualistic/”positive” or “negative” thoughts, leading to emotional reactions sometimes to those thoughts and perceptions, other times to  experiences and situations.

Emotionally, we react with fear, joy, disappointment, happiness, worry, irritation and so on.

Reaction served us for a long time. Now as we have evolved as a society, the mechanisms that imply reaction can be restructured, transformed into new ones that support harmonious states of being and inevitably a greater peace is to be established in our society. What’s so important to know and understand is that reaction is not natural. It is something we had to implement in our states of being to “survive,” to be able to adapt to a dualistic Earth, where fear has been prevalent for eons.

You may find a better understanding in seeing it as a software that was necessary for the computer to function, but a new one, an updated version of the software has been created and the old one needs to be replaced.

The bridge from reaction to response is being built through awareness.

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Responding to inner or outer experiences implies cultivating a neutral way of seeing what is and becoming masterful and mindful enough to be able choose our response. It is not to be confused with being robotic, emotions always need to be acknowledged and felt, thoughts always need to flow. The ability to respond blossoms from self-observation. Emotions will be felt, thoughts will be thought, experiences will still be experienced, but they will not get reactions from us, we will choose our response consciously. This choice is what makes the difference between response and reaction.

We either respond with love, or react with fear. Is there one way that is better than the other? No. They are simply chosen experiences to be had. At the end of the day, we have to feel into and reflect on which way works best for us and implement it in our every moment. Common sense alone will definitely guide us towards responding with love, instead of reacting with fear, of course, but actually truly implementing it in our daily lives is the real “challenge.” This process requires dedication and persistence. It is never an overnight process and it’s very multi-faceted, but we are being pushed to change our ways, and it is time to do so.

Observe, be present with the situation at hand and choose your response. Repeat. With practice, responding instead of reacting becomes natural and instinctive and it creates a far more harmonious general life experience. That is how powerful and life-changing, these simple shifts in our consciousness can be.

Thank you for reading,

Love and Light,

Eddie

Guided Meditation: Past Life Regression Therapy – Subconscious Healing For Your Current Life

This is a guided hypnosis and hypnotherapy session for healing issues in your current life with guided imagery, relaxation, and past life regression.

Is reincarnation possible? Have you previously lived a past life?
Can you re-experience memories from a different time, or from a different soul, in order to deeply heal your current self?

Relax and engage your mind’s deeper senses as you take a positive trance journey into your own subconscious mind — which will create for you the phenomenon of your own past life regression.

Discover what powerful and important messages your deeper consciousness has in store for your current life’s awareness. Use this self hypnosis to listen to your inner voice and allow yourself to transcend your conscious limitations to go deeper and beyond …

Whether you believe in literal past lives, or just the incredible power of your own creative imagination, this trance session meditation can bring important understandings released from your own self identity. Deeper insight may allow you to move forwards in your current life with renewed motivation, integration, happiness and peace.

Hypnotherapy such as this has been written about by the psychiatrist Dr. Brian Weiss, and others.

May your life be positive and full of freedom.

This is a guided hypnosis session for deep relaxation, designed to enable an experiential communication between your conscious and subconscious or unconscious mind. A higher level of personal congruency can be realised when we are able to listen to our deeper truth. You may find the answers to many ongoing personal problems and issues, if you simply take the time to ask your inner self for a new direction.

Do not listen to this recording whilst driving or operating machinery.

Suitable for day time listening, or for hypnotic induction relaxation before sleep.

This recording is in no way a replacement for any prescribed medication; nor is it intended to contraindicate or supersede any medically diagnosed conditions. The author accepts no responsibility or liability for use of this material.

All hypnosis is self hypnosis. The power for positive change resides within your own mind. If you choose to accept the suggestions presented in this session, you can rest comfortably knowing that you are the one safely in control of your own positive results.

This channel uses positive voice suggestions, often accompanied with calm images, background sounds and meditation music, to allow you your very best state of relaxation, inner change, to remove negative blocks, and to create self guided healing therapy; with techniques from the fields of hypnotherapy, modern psychotherapy, trance work, guided relaxation, NLP, cognitive behavioural psychology, mindfulness meditation, and ASMR.

Thank you for reading,

Love and Light,

Eddie

C.G Jung – The Four Major Archetypes

The term “archetype” has its origins in ancient Greek. The root words are archein, which means “original or old”; and typos, which means “pattern, model or type”. The combined meaning is an “original pattern” of which all other similar persons, objects, or concepts are derived, copied, modeled, or emulated.

The psychologist, Carl Gustav Jung, used the concept of archetype in his theory of the human psyche. He believed that universal, mythic characters—archetypes—reside within the collective unconscious of people the world over. Archetypes represent fundamental human motifs of our experience as we evolved; consequentially, they evoke deep emotions.

Most, if not all, people have several archetypes at play in their personality construct; however, one archetype tends to dominate the personality in general. It can be helpful to know which archetypes are at play in oneself and others, especially loved ones, friends and co-workers, in order to gain personal insight into behaviors and motivations.

C.G Jung listed four main categories of archetypes:

  1. The Shadow
  2. The Anima
  3. The Animus
  4. The Self

The Shadow is a very common archetype that reflects deeper elements of our psyche, where ‘latent dispositions’ which are common to us all arise. It also reflects something that was once split from us in early management of the objects in our lives.

We may see the shadow in others and, if we dare, know it in ourselves. Mostly, however, we deny it in ourselves and project it onto others. It can also have a life of its own, as the Other. A powerful goal that some undertake is to re-integrate the shadow, the dark side, and the light of the ‘real’ self. If this can be done effectively, then we can become ‘whole’ once again, bringing together that which was once split from us.

Our shadow may appear in dreams, hallucinations and musings, often as something or someone who is bad, fearsome or despicable in some way. It may seduce through false friendship or threaten with callous disregard. Encounters with it, as an aspect of the subconscious, may reveal deeper thoughts and fears. It may also take over direct physical action when the person is confused, dazed or drugged.

” To confront a person with his shadow is to show him his own light. Once one has experienced a few times what it is like to stand judgingly between the opposites, one begins to understand what is meant by the self. Anyone who perceives his shadow and his light simultaneously sees himself from two sides and thus gets in the middle. ”

– Book: Good and Evil in Analytical Psychology” (1959). In CW 10. Civilization in Transition. P.872

Anima and Animus  are female and male principles that represent this deep difference. Whilst men have a fundamental animus and women an anima, each may also have the other, just as men have a feminine side and women a masculine. Jung saw men as having one dominant anima, contributed to by female members of his family, whilst women have a more complex, variable animus, perhaps made of several parts.

Jung theorized the development of the anima/animus as beginning with infant projection onto the mother, then projecting onto prospective partners until a lasting relationship can be found.

The Self – For Jung, the self is not just ‘me’ but God. It is the spirit that connects and is part of the universe. It is the coherent whole that unifies both consciousness and unconsciousness. It may be found elsewhere in such principles as nirvana and ecstatic harmony. It is perhaps what Jaques Lacan called ‘the real’.

Jung described creation of the self as a process of individuation, where all aspects are brought together as one. Thus ‘re-birth’ is returning to the wholeness of birth, before we start to split our selves into many parts.

Jung said that there are a large number of archetypes. These are often linked to the main archetypes and may represent aspects of them. They also overlap and many can appear in the same person. For example:

Family archetypes:

  • The father: Stern, powerful, controlling
  • The mother: Feeding, nurturing, soothing
  • The child: Birth, beginnings, salvation

Story archetypes:

  • The hero: Rescuer, champion
  • The maiden: Purity, desire
  • The wise old man: Knowledge, guidance
  • The magician: Mysterious, powerful
  • The earth mother: Nature
  • The witch or sorceress: Dangerous
  • The trickster: Deceiving, hidden

Animal archetypes:

  • The faithful dog: Unquestioning loyalty
  • The enduring horse: Never giving up
  • The devious cat: Self-serving

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Thank you for reading,

Love and Light,

Eddie

Some information has been taken from:

Wikipedia

Soulcraft.co

C.G Jung Book: Good and Evil in Analytical Psychology

How To Transcend The Ego

Ego is one of the most talked about concepts in the spiritual community and nonetheless the most misunderstood and misperceived. I know I am touching on a sensitive subject, but try to keep an open mind and heart when reading, as that always leaves space for expansion. As always, use your discernment.

In order to transcend dualistic perceptions of the ego, we must first let go of the judgement of bad and good, wrong and right and start looking at things from a higher perspective, which is always neutral, always from a place of awareness. As we transcend dualistic perceptions, there will be no mental distortions and we can see things with greater clarity, as they are and the part they play in creation.

From experience, I say fighting, ” killing”, blaming and hating the ego is the most self-sabotaging, harmful thing we can do to ourselves and if we are doing it to ourselves, we are inevitably treating others the same.

Individuals who understand self-love and who truly love, accept and embrace all they are as human beings, as well as their universal nature, will never separate Soul from Ego. They have unified all the aspects within themselves. They have transcended lower aspects into more Soul-aligned aspects which inevitably creates a higher vibrational experience.

In the end, the ego is just a Soul expression that allowed us to experience duality. The simple awareness of that can create a big change within and a feeling of harmony and your relationship with yourself. It clearly served us well and did the trick, but if we want to return to our pristine nature, we must now merge all our aspects, ego/”shadow self” including. We do that not by constantly being in conflict with ourselves, constantly being at war with the ego, but by acknowledging, embracing, transcending and integrating deeper states of self-love and compassion for ourselves.

Awareness in the present moment of now is all we really need to transform, transmute and transcend in order to bring more Soul into our beingness. The rest comes naturally when we make a constant soul-fueled effort to become the highest aspect of ourselves we can be.

Thank you for reading,

Love and Light,

Eddie