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The Difference Between Responding And Reacting

We don’t think much about these two concepts, but the knowledge and the understanding of them could be the secret ingredients to living life in grace’s embrace and they can provide us with that strong foundation of balance and harmony that cannot be easily shaken by neither outer or inner challenges, which we all experience at some point.

I noticed that many of us confuse these two “concepts.”  Perhaps “concepts” is not the best word to use, they are much more than that, they are ways of living. Once implemented, they can shift our reality greatly, but first let us describe these ways of living and the difference between, so they will be better comprehended.

As humans, we have been programmed to react to the outer world. It is that primal instinct, animalistic reaction to our environment, to situations, to people. This reaction to outer circumstances is mental, emotional and even physical. In physiology, it is called the ” fight-or-flight response,” but I humbly beg to change the name slightly and say it’s more like the “fight-or-flight reaction,” because indeed it is a physiological reaction, not a response. It triggers neural reactions, secretions of various hormones and a lot more processes are beginning to take place in our body. Reacting can lead to anxiety, depression, chronic stress, weakened immune system and increased risk of heart attack and stroke.

Our body feels like it is being attacked, so it created a very intelligent defense mechanism, that has evolved as necessary and needed throughout centuries of distorted social structures. Today, we are far more advanced than we were even five years ago. We may recognize some primitive behaviour in some, but generally we have evolved and are evolving past those distorted social structures. Defense mechanisms have to evolve too, the walls have to be torn down and as with everything else, this evolution begins through our inner transformation.

On a mental level, our mind reacts to outer circumstances either with dualistic/”positive” or “negative” thoughts, leading to emotional reactions sometimes to those thoughts and perceptions, other times to  experiences and situations.

Emotionally, we react with fear, joy, disappointment, happiness, worry, irritation and so on.

Reaction served us for a long time. Now as we have evolved as a society, the mechanisms that imply reaction can be restructured, transformed into new ones that support harmonious states of being and inevitably a greater peace is to be established in our society. What’s so important to know and understand is that reaction is not natural. It is something we had to implement in our states of being to “survive,” to be able to adapt to a dualistic Earth, where fear has been prevalent for eons.

You may find a better understanding in seeing it as a software that was necessary for the computer to function, but a new one, an updated version of the software has been created and the old one needs to be replaced.

The bridge from reaction to response is being built through awareness.

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Responding to inner or outer experiences implies cultivating a neutral way of seeing what is and becoming masterful and mindful enough to be able choose our response. It is not to be confused with being robotic, emotions always need to be acknowledged and felt, thoughts always need to flow. The ability to respond blossoms from self-observation. Emotions will be felt, thoughts will be thought, experiences will still be experienced, but they will not get reactions from us, we will choose our response consciously. This choice is what makes the difference between response and reaction.

We either respond with love, or react with fear. Is there one way that is better than the other? No. They are simply chosen experiences to be had. At the end of the day, we have to feel into and reflect on which way works best for us and implement it in our every moment. Common sense alone will definitely guide us towards responding with love, instead of reacting with fear, of course, but actually truly implementing it in our daily lives is the real “challenge.” This process requires dedication and persistence. It is never an overnight process and it’s very multi-faceted, but we are being pushed to change our ways, and it is time to do so.

Observe, be present with the situation at hand and choose your response. Repeat. With practice, responding instead of reacting becomes natural and instinctive and it creates a far more harmonious general life experience. That is how powerful and life-changing, these simple shifts in our consciousness can be.

Thank you for reading,

Love and Light,

Eddie

Dreaming The Dream Or Living The Dream ?

Greetings!

Much is unfolding, even when everything appears to be still. There is action in movement, but there is action in stillness as well. On the 8th of February, we’ve experienced a new moon in Aquarius, the contemplator, the reflector with the focus on the inner planes, balanced beautifully and harmoniously by planets that set the wheels in motion, such as Mars in Scorpio.  On the same day, the chinese new year has been celebrated, the year of the monkey. Whenever such events are manifested in the outer, they mark a greater significance. In this case, the completion of a cycle and the beginning of a new one.

Over that past couple of weeks, we’ve integrated profound understandings, we’ve unified aspects of ourselves and we got deeper in the self-mastery process through experience. I read this energy in themes and the overall themes of it were surrender, along with acceptance, constant transformation and embodiment of our Soul  core essence. It’s not that this is stopping, expansion is continuous, but there are certain completion points for the things we’ve been working on.

As I’ve mentioned, we’ve been pushed to surrender all the resistance we might have held. This was needed, because there are experiences that we perceive as “negative.” The moment we perceived them so, we denied them. We deny the experiences that we came here for in the first place, instead of working through them. Let say, for example, you find yourself at a job that you don’t like, so you go” I don’t like this. I never wanted this, why is this happening? I don’t want this.” and from there you start denying the experience, you try to escape it, instead of embracing it. But in truth, this job was created by you, for you in order to learn something from it that is most likely for you Soul growth. Maybe there is a relationship at your work place that benefits you, or certain skills you need to aquire from it that will benefit you on the long term.

Bottom line is, your experiences reflect you and they usually hold a greater purpose than you can think of. Sometimes, we don’t know everything and we don’t see the bigger picture, but know that all the experiences that are often perceived as “negative” might hold a rare gem that yearns to be discovered and some of these experiences can be truly life changing in the most beautiful and transformative ways you can think of.

Knowing this, we can accept what life has to offer fearlessly, we can accept life as it is, surrender. It doesn’t mean hardships are necessary or that struggling is necessary. It means that the sooner we accept life as it is, the faster we move into the natural flow of creation and the easier it will be to move through challenges, just like the swan paddles across the water – with grace.

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From there on, we can make the best of every experience we have in every moment. Work with what you have now, not what you think you should have. If the experience is there, it means there is a good reason for it. We can spend time dreaming about how things should be and how if the circumstances were different we would be happier, while we are missing the dream that is already being played out by us, for us. We are missing the moment of now and that way, we are missing out a big part of life itself. Dreaming the dream might give some sense of hope, I understand, but living the dream is the ultimate happiness. No one, ever, can teach you how to be happy or how to live, unless you figure that out yourself.

Life is not happening to you, you are life/creation itself. You make creation happen and the moment you truly realise and embody that realisation, you activate a little bit more of your potential as a human co-creator being, which is life changing in itself. Often time, not the most visible change, but by far one of the most profound one. After this realisation, comes the mastery. There might be moments when you feel hopeless, helpless and disempowered. In those moments use this newly(or not so newly)aquired awareness of your potential and tune into the higher truths of the Soul. It’s like switching from a boring radio station, to one where they play your favourite tracks.

These words are only meant to guide you towards living the dream, but it’s always our job to actually do it, to be truly alive.

I hope this makes sense.

Thank you for reading,

Love and Light,

Eddie