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The Balance Between Giving And Receiving

Giving and receiving are actions we all do every day, either consciously or unconsciously. We are constantly exchanging energy, whether it is with other people, animals, our environment, the planet etc. That is just how the Universe works. What is most important is to find the balance between giving and receiving and that balance comes naturally when the blockages related to these two actions are being released.

As always, it all starts within yourself.

Most people who put themselves in positions that require selfless service and altruism are constantly giving, without expecting anything in return, which is totally fine. However, when it comes to receiving, they are extremely resistant, which is not healthy. This has the energy of the old paradigm that was based on self-sacrifice, which has nothing to do with the higher vibrational states of being. When you constantly give, give, give you might find that there will be nothing left for you to give to yourself and when you constantly take, you become a bit like a needy energy vampire. Both of these imbalances can be lethal to your well-being.

Being a giver, doesn’t make you a better person, and being a taker doesn’t make you a bad person. Those are two outdated concepts. In truth, it’s all about the energy and finding the balance between these two actions, as that leads to a harmonious flow and exchange of energy.

We need to transcend self-sacrifice into a higher form of divine service that is based on love and harmony with the self. If this resistance to receiving is not released, it can be manifested as a block in many areas of one’s life.

Best example would be the flow of abundance. In order for abundance to flow easily and harmoniously, a balance between giving and receiving is needed. When you resist receiving or you are not open to giving, abundance won’t be expressed in your life as it’s supposed to, it won’t flow freely.  Same goes for relationships. There has to be a healthy exchange of energy in order for a relationship to last and be solid.

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On a deeper level, most blockages and challenges related to the imbalance between giving and receiving come from the lack of self-love.

When you truly love yourself, not in the narcissistic/arrogant way, but as in a profound feeling of appreciation, complete acceptance and embracement of all you are as a Source spark, “flaws” and all, you want what is best for you and, inevitably, you want what’s best for everybody. The way you treat yourself, is the way you will treat others as well.

So, when love is flowing through you, that is when you give without expecting anything in return and when you love yourself, you will give love to yourself as well and will be open to receiving it, no matter how it will be expressed in your life. Love takes many shapes, it could simply be the smile of a stranger, or the compliment of a friend.

The basic idea is that, it all starts with loving yourself and the rest will take care of itself.

Have a blissful day and thank you for reading,

Love and Light,

Eddie

Self-Love Part 1

Do you truly love and accept yourself?

“This self-love is the instrument of our preservation; it resembles the provision for the perpetuity of mankind: it is necessary, it is dear to us, it gives us pleasure, and we must conceal it.” – Voltaire

We want to start with the very basics. For anyone’s well being, Self-Love is essential. People are looking for Happiness everywhere but the right place: inside themselves! For any human being to be able to experience true happiness, it is imperative that they fully love and accept themselves.

We interviewed some people in the streets of London and many refused to talk, not because they were camera shy but because they didn’t think they had anything great to say about themselves, or they didn’t think they had love for themselves.

However, some brave ones were happy to talk about Self-Love and what it meant to them, as well as sharing what they love about themselves. Take a look at the video below:

 Let’s talk about Self-Love

I can speak about Self-Love openly. Why? Because there was a time I did not love myself. In fact, it was quite the opposite. I used to hate myself. I was very lost, I no longer knew what I wanted, where was I going, and what my goals and dreams were.

I thought money was the main concern I had to deal with, and that achieving success and financial freedom were the things I needed to do to be free and happy; turns out when that started to happen I felt even emptier as I was building my wealth above a foundation in which I did not believe.

Well, there is a lot I want to talk about, but for this article I’ll focus on the fact I didn’t love myself and used to put the on the great mask, presenting this “facade” to everyone.

See, I’m one of those people that they call bubbly, I’m always smiling, and yes to a certain degree this is what my life is like, mostly cheerful. The reality is that I was trying to avoid the main issue.

  1.   I didn’t love myself
  2.   I didn’t even know who I was

So, I decided to continue playing that role until it got to a point that it no longer served me. I was tired of wearing the mask, and I was ready to start getting to know the person underneath it.

Believe me, I read all of those new age books. I used to tell myself oh yes let’s try this, let’s do that.. Oh yes I love myself, but never had the courage to look inside.

When I started looking inside I didn’t like what I saw. All those years of avoidance, not dealing with my internal feelings – Oh man they pile up – and it gets harder and harder, it was a big pile, practically 30 years of it.

Anyway, through meditation, energy healing and other spiritual practices, I gained the strength I needed to be able to face myself, to listen to the “I” right inside, and finally started to acknowledge that the things I truly believed were not the things I included in my day-to-day life nor my work.

So I had to change…I had to start an inner journey to find out who I am, what I love, and what makes my soul sparkle…

Do you know what is it? What makes your soul sparkle?

Okay, so maybe you don’t believe in the soul etc .. Let’s re-phrase.. What makes you feel real?

Something you love doing so much it doesn’t even matter what the results are like because you are having so much fulfilment while doing it. It makes your entire body vibrate differently, it makes you warm and smile inside.

I take it you get the point…

I guess listening to yourself and finding out what makes your soul sparkle is the first real symptom of Self-Love.

Does it make sense? I hope you are getting it.

It’s not straight forward (it might be, if you are already on this path). It was not so obvious for me when I was so far away from understanding this Self-Love business.

So, you might be asking yourself .. mmmm I do want to find out . Do I love myself?

Here is a simple exercise.

I started with baby steps, doing a really simple experiment that can open all sorts of doors.

The mirror experiment  

Look yourself in the mirror, stare into your own eyes and say:

I Love you, I love you , I love you – I Love and Accept myself for who I am.

Once that’s done, you will know right away how far from truly loving yourself you are.

If you can jump right away into the core of your eyes and swim in your own soul, feeling the bliss that follows with it, that’s what it’s meant to be like when you truly love yourself.

Or..

If when you say those things it’s nearly like they are not meant to be said out loud, there is a discomfort, shyness, maybe even a sadness or a feeling of untruth…

Me? I had all of those. It was baaad.

The good thing is when you realise you want to be honest with yourself and work on it.

Start with this simple exercise every day, maybe morning and evening or even more. The more you do, the more things start to change – believe me this is a powerful tool.

Anyway, I guess the point is..

  • Do you truly love yourself?
  • Do you truly know who you are?
  • Do you truly do what you love?
  • Do you truly know what you love?

If any of the answers above are NO, don’t panic, most people will not even dare to ask themselves those questions until is too late to do anything about it.

The good thing is that you got here and that’s the beginning of a new journey. If you are willing to do the work and find out what is behind the rainbow, you can.

Start small with the mirror exercise, and do it at least once a day for 30 days.

We will soon post more on the subject. Feel free to ask questions and remember, “The Power is Yours”.

For more Eye gazing techniques here are some helpful links :

 

Keep Calm and Love Yourself

Thanks for reading,

Love and Light,

Sab