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Releasing Your Control Drama

Recently, I’ve started reading a James Redfield book called: The Celestine Prophecy. It’s a good read for people who are on their awakening path, definitely recommended. What really caught my attention and I felt is significant for the period we are in is the control drama archetypes that James described so well in his book. I am going to share a few paragraphs that describe these archetypes, with a few notes from myself.

Bare in mind that these dramas are extremely subtle and have been passed through generations. It is some deeply ingrained social programming so don’t feel guilty and don’t be too hard on yourself if you discover you have been playing into these dramas or creating them all along. Instead, as the information of these control dramas come into your awareness, take responsability and become more mindful of the energy of it, in order to transcend these outdated programs.

Here are some paragraphs that describe control dramas in general:

We must face up to our particular way of controlling others. Remember, the Fourth Insight reveals that humans have always felt short of energy and have sought to control each other to acquire the energy that flows between people. The Fifth then shows us that an alternative Source exists, but we can’t really stay connected with this source until we come to grips with the particular method that, we, as individuals, use in our controlling, and stop doing it – because whenever we fall back into this habit, we get disconnected from the source.  

Getting rid of this habit isn’t easy because it’s always unconscious at first. The key to letting it go is to bring it fully into our consciousness, and we do that by seeing that our particular style of controlling others is one we learned in childhood to get attention, to get the energy moving our way, and we’re stuck there. This style is something we repeat over and over again. I call it our unconscious control drama. 

I call it a drama because it is one familiar scene, like a scene in a movie, for which we write the script as youths. Then we repeat this scene over and over in our daily lives without being aware of it. All we know is that the same kind of events happen to us repeteadly. The problem is if we are repeating one particular scene over and over, then the other scenes of our real life movie, the high adventure marked by coincidences can’t go forward. We stop the movie when we repeat this one drama in order to manipulate for energy. “

” The first step in the process of getting clear, for each of us, is to bring our particular control drama into full consciousness. Nothing can proceed until we really look at ourselves and discover what we are doing to manipulate for energy. This is what has just happened to you. “

Note – The solution to ending these unhealthy exchanges of energy is the realization that within, you have access to an infinite, never-ending amount of energy constantly flowing through you if you allow it to. 

” Each of us must go back into our past, back into our early family life, and see how this habit was formed. Seeing its inception keeps our way of controlling in consciousness. Remember, most of our family members were operating in a drama themselves, trying to pull energy out of us as children. This is why we had to have a strategy to win energy back. It is always in relation to our family members that we develop our particular dramas. However, once we recognize the energy dynamics in our families, we can go past these control stategies and see what was really happening.

Each person must reinterpret his family experience from an evolutionary point of view, from a spiritual point of view, and discover who he really is. Once we do that, our control drama falls away and our real lives take off.  ” 

The next paragraphs give us an insight of how the 4 control drama archetypes operate. 

” So how do I begin ?

 By first understanding how your drama was formed. Tell me about your father. 

He is a good man who is fun-loving and capable but… I hesitated, not wanting to sound ungrateful toward my father.

But what ? Sanchez asked.

Well, I said, he was always critical. I could never do anything right.

How did he criticize you ? Sanchez asked.

A picture of my father, young and strong, appeared in my mind. ‘ He asked questions, then found something wrong with the answers.’

And what happened to your energy ? 

I guess I felt drained so I tried to keep from telling him anything.

You mean you got vague and distant, trying to say things in a way that would get to his attention but not reveal enough to give him something to criticize. He was the Interrogator and you dodged around him with your aloofness

Yeah, I guess. But what is an interrogator ?

An Interrogator is another kind of drama. People who use this means of gaining energy, set up drama of asking questions and probing into another person’s world with specific purpose of finding something wrong. Once they do, then they criticize this aspect of the other’s life. If this strategy succeeds then the person being criticized is pulled into drama. They suddenly find themselves becoming self-conscious around the interrogator and paying attention to what the interrogator is doing and thinking about, so as not to do something wrong that the interrogator would notice. This psychic deference gives the interrogator the energy he desires. 

Think about the times you have been around someone like this. When you get caught up in this drama, don’t you tend to act a certain way so that the person won’t criticize you ? He pulls you off your own path and drains your energy because you judge yourself by what he might be thinking. 

Let me explain the classifications spoken of in the Manuscript. Sanchez said. Everyone manipulates for energy either aggressively, directly, forcing people to pay attention to them, or passively, playing on people’s sympathy or curiosity to gain attention. For instance, if someone threatens you, either verbally or physically, then you are forced, for fear of something bad happening to you, to pay attention to him and so to give him energy. The person threatening you would be pulling you into the most aggressive kind of drama, what the Sixth Insight calls the Intimidator.

If on the other hand, someone tells you all the horrible things that are already happening to them, implying perhaps that you are responsible, and that, if you refuse to help, these horrible things are going to continue, then this person is seeking to control at a poor me drama. Think about this one for a moment. Haven’t you ever been around someone who makes you feel guilty when you’re in their presence, even though you know there is no reason to feel this way ?


Well, it’s because you have entered the drama world of Poor Me. Everything they say and do puts you in a place where you have to defend against the idea that you’re not doing enough for this person. That’s why you feel guilty just being around them.

I nodded.

Anyone’s drama can be examined, he continued, according to where it falls on this spectrum from aggressive to passive. If a person is subtle in their aggression, finding fault and slowly undermining your world in order to get your energy, then, as we saw in your father, this person would be an interrogator. Less passive than the poor me would be your aloofness drama. So the order of dramas goes this way: Intimidator, Interrogator, Aloof and Poor Me

A person goes to whatever extreme necessary to get attention energy in their family. And after that, this strategy becomes their dominant way of controlling to get strategy from everyone, the drama they constantly repeat. 

I understand the intimidator, I said, but how does the interrogator develop ?

What would you do if you were a child and your family members were either not there or ignored you because they were preoccupied with their career or something ?

I don’t know.

Playing aloof wouldn’t get their attention; they wouldn’t notice. Wouldn’t you have to resort to probing and prying and finally finding something wrong in these aloof people in order to force attention and energy ?This is what an interrogator does.

I began to get the insight. ‘ Aloof people create interrogators! ‘

That’s right.

And interrogators make people aloof! And intimidators create the poor me approach, or if this fails, another intimidator!

Exactly. That’s how control dramas perpetuate themselves. But remember, there is a tendancy to see these dramas in others but to think that we ourselves are free from such devices. Each of us must transcend this illusion before we can go on. Almost all of us tend to be stuck, at least some of the time, in a drama and we have to step back and look at ourselves long enough to discover what it is. 

I was silent for a moment. Finally I looked at Sanchez again and asked: Once we see our drama, what happens next ?

We are truly free to become more than the unconscious act we play. As I said before, we can find a higher meaning for our lives, a spiritual reason we were born to our particular families. We can begin to get clear about who we really are. ”

In conclusion: Be mindful of your energy. Don’t go into guilt mode if you realize you have been creating some drama, we all chose to experience duality for a while, so there’s nothing to feel guilty about. It’s just an experience. Guilt is unnecessary, it’s like jumping  from drama to another drama, from control drama to victim drama. Give some love and kindness to yourself. Taking responsability for your own creations is a much better idea and it is an important theme now, especially as we go through this full moon gateway.

The paragraphs I used from The Celestine Prophecy book were taken from the 144th page to the 155th. You can get it on Amazon if you are interested. You can click on it below and it will lead you there.


Thank you for reading,

Love and Light,