Do you truly love and accept yourself?
“This self-love is the instrument of our preservation; it resembles the provision for the perpetuity of mankind: it is necessary, it is dear to us, it gives us pleasure, and we must conceal it.” – Voltaire
We want to start with the very basics. For anyone’s well being, Self-Love is essential. People are looking for Happiness everywhere but the right place: inside themselves! For any human being to be able to experience true happiness, it is imperative that they fully love and accept themselves.
We interviewed some people in the streets of London and many refused to talk, not because they were camera shy but because they didn’t think they had anything great to say about themselves, or they didn’t think they had love for themselves.
However, some brave ones were happy to talk about Self-Love and what it meant to them, as well as sharing what they love about themselves. Take a look at the video below:
Let’s talk about Self-Love
I can speak about Self-Love openly. Why? Because there was a time I did not love myself. In fact, it was quite the opposite. I used to hate myself. I was very lost, I no longer knew what I wanted, where was I going, and what my goals and dreams were.
I thought money was the main concern I had to deal with, and that achieving success and financial freedom were the things I needed to do to be free and happy; turns out when that started to happen I felt even emptier as I was building my wealth above a foundation in which I did not believe.
Well, there is a lot I want to talk about, but for this article I’ll focus on the fact I didn’t love myself and used to put the on the great mask, presenting this “facade” to everyone.
See, I’m one of those people that they call bubbly, I’m always smiling, and yes to a certain degree this is what my life is like, mostly cheerful. The reality is that I was trying to avoid the main issue.
- I didn’t love myself
- I didn’t even know who I was
So, I decided to continue playing that role until it got to a point that it no longer served me. I was tired of wearing the mask, and I was ready to start getting to know the person underneath it.
Believe me, I read all of those new age books. I used to tell myself oh yes let’s try this, let’s do that.. Oh yes I love myself, but never had the courage to look inside.
When I started looking inside I didn’t like what I saw. All those years of avoidance, not dealing with my internal feelings – Oh man they pile up – and it gets harder and harder, it was a big pile, practically 30 years of it.
Anyway, through meditation, energy healing and other spiritual practices, I gained the strength I needed to be able to face myself, to listen to the “I” right inside, and finally started to acknowledge that the things I truly believed were not the things I included in my day-to-day life nor my work.
So I had to change…I had to start an inner journey to find out who I am, what I love, and what makes my soul sparkle…
Do you know what is it? What makes your soul sparkle?
Okay, so maybe you don’t believe in the soul etc .. Let’s re-phrase.. What makes you feel real?
Something you love doing so much it doesn’t even matter what the results are like because you are having so much fulfilment while doing it. It makes your entire body vibrate differently, it makes you warm and smile inside.
I take it you get the point…
I guess listening to yourself and finding out what makes your soul sparkle is the first real symptom of Self-Love.
Does it make sense? I hope you are getting it.
It’s not straight forward (it might be, if you are already on this path). It was not so obvious for me when I was so far away from understanding this Self-Love business.
So, you might be asking yourself .. mmmm I do want to find out . Do I love myself?
Here is a simple exercise.
I started with baby steps, doing a really simple experiment that can open all sorts of doors.
The mirror experiment
Look yourself in the mirror, stare into your own eyes and say:
I Love you, I love you , I love you – I Love and Accept myself for who I am.
Once that’s done, you will know right away how far from truly loving yourself you are.
If you can jump right away into the core of your eyes and swim in your own soul, feeling the bliss that follows with it, that’s what it’s meant to be like when you truly love yourself.
If when you say those things it’s nearly like they are not meant to be said out loud, there is a discomfort, shyness, maybe even a sadness or a feeling of untruth…
Me? I had all of those. It was baaad.
The good thing is when you realise you want to be honest with yourself and work on it.
Start with this simple exercise every day, maybe morning and evening or even more. The more you do, the more things start to change – believe me this is a powerful tool.
Anyway, I guess the point is..
- Do you truly love yourself?
- Do you truly know who you are?
- Do you truly do what you love?
- Do you truly know what you love?
If any of the answers above are NO, don’t panic, most people will not even dare to ask themselves those questions until is too late to do anything about it.
The good thing is that you got here and that’s the beginning of a new journey. If you are willing to do the work and find out what is behind the rainbow, you can.
Start small with the mirror exercise, and do it at least once a day for 30 days.
We will soon post more on the subject. Feel free to ask questions and remember, “The Power is Yours”.
For more Eye gazing techniques here are some helpful links :
Thanks for reading,
Love and Light,